Peer pressure (or social pressure) is the direct influence on people by peers, or an individual who gets encouraged to follow their peers by changing their attitudes, values, or behaviors to conform to those of the influencing group or individual according to wikipedia. What it fails to explain is how it can have some severe effects on a student’s life.
Types of peer pressure.
It can be both direct or indirect.
- Direct:Situations when there is an option of saying someone yes or no after they ask.
- Indirect: Situation where we do something to fit in or just to stay close to someone.
Avoiding peer pressure
Learn to identify those situations where unwanted offers or behaviors are most likely to happen. Plan ahead what you’d say or how you’d act to turn down an offer. Preparation helps in better handling of situation. It’s okay to hang out with people who have different habits from yours. Knowing what to expect will help you respect their decisions as well as stand by yours
You’re probably the best one to know which environments or places are likely to lead to an unwanted situation. If you’re not confident you can say, the best option is probably to avoid these places outright.
It’s easy to say yes to everyone. However we gain much more respect when we are able to show that our life is in our hands.
Ways to Say no
- Like a boss:In most cases, “No, thanks” is enough as an answer. Don’t feel like you have to provide an explanation if you’re not asked to.
- No with a reason:Make your explanation short without making a big deal about it. If someone offers you a cigarette, you can simply say “No, thanks, I don’t smoke”: that is a good enough explanation. This strategy works very well when you’re asked to do something you don’t want to, or when you want to avoid a specific situation.
- The Chandler Bing way: Make a joke, use sarcasm. Humor is often best way to get out of an awkward situation and helps release the tension.
- Alternate: Say no and then suggest an alternative to the thing.